Thursday, March 12, 2009

The Strong Male Has Become An Endangered Species In America

If you turn on the television, you won't have to wait long to see how men are expected to behave in modern America - sex crazed, beer swilling, irresponsible idiot slackers who cower before their more mature, more responsible and more dominant female partners.

The truth is that the "strong male" has become an endangered species in the United States. It has been widely reported that testosterone levels in men are dropping about 1.2% per year, and 59% of all college students are now female. In fact, it has been reported that women in their 20s in the 10 largest cities in the United States now earn more money than men of the same age. Those women who are still looking for a traditional "man" complain that all they find are overgrown boys who have given up, tuned out, are slaves to their addictions and who won't take leadership or responsibility for anything.

Not that men are bad - most of them feel completely lost and confused - as if they have lost something that they didn't even know they were missing. All of their lives American men have been taught that they are NOT the leaders of the home, and that it should be expected and accepted that women will yell at them and tell them what to do. Movies and television reinforce this programming every single day by bombarding men and boys with the message that they are irresponsible subserviant slackers who need to be corrected by the more responsible females.

Just think about all the times you have watched a scene where a female character yells at a male character and chews him out.

And what do we do?

We laugh and snicker.

But now take that same scene and flip the characters.

We would be horrified, wouldn't we?

And rightfully so.

So why do we think it is cute when the female verbally abuses the male?

A shocking study done by the respected Pew Research Center confirms that in the United States it is women who predominantly rule at home.

The study surveyed 1,260 individuals who were either married or living together. What the study found was that in 43% of all couples, women make more decisions in the four areas Pew surveyed: planning weekend activities, household finances, major home purchases and TV watching.

26% of the time men make more of the decisions, the survey revealed, and 31% of the time the decisions are made "equally".

So should we be surprised? Can we all not see that the women wear the pants in most families now?

For example, one respondent to the USAToday article on this survey wrote this:

"I am a manager at work, and wouldn't have it any other way. But when I get home, I'd much rather chill out and let the wife make the calls."

The truth is that we have trained a generation of American men to be immature, subservient, submissive wimps who are very hesitant to take responsibility or leadership.

Watch just about any sitcom or any television commercial or any movie with these issues in mind. Watch who the dominant or responsible partner in any couple is. Once you know to look for it you will see it everywhere.

This is not how a society should work.

The Bible teaches that men should be strong, powerful, sacrifical servant-leaders as we see in Ephesians 5:25:

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

The truth is that men need to be so strong for their wives and children that they need to be ready to die for their families if it comes down to that.

Wow, how far we are from that ideal today.

Instead of creating a society full of strong men who would be willing to die for their families if need be, we have created a society full of weak, irresponsible, passive men who won't stand up for anyone or anything.


  1. Thank you for posting this. It is disheartening and saddening to see this happening because there is nobody here to raise and train boys to be men, let alone Godly men. It is missing both from the culture and from much of the church. We need to rediscover masculinity as God created it.

  2. Fact is woman have it all now. Why do they need men? They'd just as soon kick you out of the house if you don't comply with their wishes. Generally speaking, a man puts up with it and gives up all control so he can ensure a sexual relationship. But woman need not care about that. If a woman wants sex, she can get easily. She can even get paid thousands of dollars to do it. Not so for men. Modern society has taught men that unless they are rich, then they are nothing more than towel boys.

  3. 1 off the cuff remark (women in their 20s etc) with no factual basis + 1 study by the Pew Research group which, in my opinion, isn't anything new + 1 quote from the bible does not equal reality.

    What a skewed sense of reality you truly have.

  4. "A shocking study done by the respected Pew Research Center confirms that in the United States it is women who predominantly rule at home."

    So what?